NO OVERPOWERING
"Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another, or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations."
It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness.
It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations."
it is true to a certain extent. stop changing ur partner cos they will not change unless they are willing to. i mean, they are who they are!! why do u keep wanting to wanna change them? aren't u suppose to ACCEPT them for who they are? and NOT tryin to IMPROVE them?
but . . . u see . . . that's the biggest problem in all relationships ;o)
if you cannot fully accept the person the way they are now, then don't EVEN THINK about marrying them and spending ur WHOLE LIFE with them. sorry to say, it may or may not work out.
if the little things thru out ur rship annoys the shit out of u, imagine u got to live with the person EVERY DAY in the next 30 years?!?! yeah!! imagine!! that is quite terrifying when u think about it.
choosing a life long partner is really difficult~
so, my question is, how would you know if they are the ONE?
*hehe*
i think this is the most common question posted out to the whole world and there are no specific answers for it. if anyone does, please do inform me first.
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